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7 Things to Remember During The Struggles of Motherhood

May 14, 2018
7 Things to Remember During The Struggles of Motherhood. Being The Best Mother I Can Be - Happy Mothers Day 2018

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Before having children, we always have this thing in our heads that we will end up being the best mother because…well we think we know….

“Being a parent makes you feel like a blanket that’s always too small. No matter how hard you try to cover everyone, there’s always someone who’s freezing” (taken from Beartown by Fredrik Backman). Now almost 5 years later, I resonate with this quote and laugh at how I assumed being a mother was going to be…

My Motherhood Journey

Motherhood (for me) started in February 2013 when I found out I was first pregnant. It was completely unexpected, my husband and I were in New York, doing one of our first few Singles Events we hosted. We had just come back from visiting my family in Dubai and we had no plans to have a baby. In fact, we had intended on going to Hajj (Muslim Holy Pilgrimage). But God had other plans for us.

Of course, this was a huge shock and although I was excited, I had no idea what I was in for. Motherhood is so exciting to plan for but it’s like a ride that you get on and you have NO CLUE what you are going to experience. I had a very healthy pregnancy but ended up with a very traumatic birth (read my birth stories here) and only now (4 and half years later), did I realize that I have some Postpartum Stress  & Anxiety that I never addressed.

Through my journey, I just accepted whatever was thrown at me assuming that’s what motherhood was about. You lose sleep, you sacrifice, you give you give you give, you cry and you just have to do. I loved my baby, but his crying gave me anxiety. He had bad colic for the first few months. To me, his crying was a reflection of me not being a good mother. I now realize that it’s completely untrue. His crying was a reflection of his situation at that moment. His colic, his bad tummy, his hunger, his tiredness, etc. I did my best as a mother. I still always do….So why is it so hard to accept that we are in fact “Being the Best Mother”…

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I have 3 little children today, they are 4 yrs, 2 yrs and 11 months. And to be brutally honest it’s been a rollercoaster. I love my children to bits, I would do anything for them, but I can’t say that it’s been easy. I have a lot of days where lose my temper, I have mommy meltdowns and cry more than I would like, and feel like I want to just run away. But then those moments turn around super quick and we’ll be talking, laughing or playing and I take them to their favorite park.

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I am still adapting because motherhood is ever evolving and ever-changing. There’s a new phase every week, a new development and with that comes growth. Not only are our children growing, but we are growing as parents. And I truly believe this is my biggest test. In the Quran, Allah says “And know that your possessions and your children are but a trial and that surely, with Allah is a mighty reward” [al-Anfaal 8:28 – interpretation of the meaning]. So with hardship comes ease and with the struggles of parenting.

7 Things to Remember During The Struggles of Motherhood. Being The Best Mother I Can Be - Happy Mothers Day 2018

Things to Remember As a Mother Through the Struggles

  • So despite all of the struggles, I want to tell you that you are an amazing  mama,
  • Whether you are pregnant with your first, or you have 1/2/3 or more kids, you are still amazing.
  • You are doing something so beautiful, from sacrificing your body and growing this being inside you and nurturing it, to going through the pain of labor and birth to bring them out into this world.
  • You struggle with sleep, backpain, nausea, and a bunch of other things during pregnancy as your baby grows and you get ready to bring baby into the word.
  • You selflessly stay up at night despite all the pain you are in postpartum to feed your baby.
  • You are constantly thinking about your kids and how you can make their world a better place.
  • You CAN do whatever you can to make sure they are happy, and you constantly put everyone before yourself.

This is why Islam has raised the status of women so high that Heaven lives beneath her feet. 

Just always remember you are not alone. What you feel today, hundreds or even thousands of other moms are feeling too! It’s amazing how when you open up to a bunch of moms about something, they will say omg I just went through that too!”. There’s this weird comfort in knowing you are not alone.

So mama’s No matter how difficult it may be, we have to remind ourselves (myself first) not to focus on what we gave up to have these children, but rather what we are gaining from it. This is something I struggle with on a daily basis because I am constantly giving up 5-10 things a day to do something for my children or my home. And boy is that hard.  Motherhood teaches us so much, especially about ourselves. I never knew I could have so much anxiety until I had children. I never knew I could love someone so much and be frustrated with them at the same time until I had children. I never imagined living on no sleep and still getting up at 7 am to be selfless. But when you think about it, they are the reason we wake up

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Motherhood teaches us so much, especially about ourselves. I never knew I could have so much anxiety until I had children. I never knew I could love someone so much and be frustrated with them at the same time until I had children. I never imagined living on no sleep and still getting up at 7 am to be selfless. But when you think about it, they are the reason we wake up. If we are not there for them their world falls apart, that’s how important our role is. Isn’t that so honorable?

My Prayer For You

So I pray that your journey as a mother gets easier if you are in difficult times now. I pray that God continues to bless you with patience, happiness, and fulfillment. May you always smile through it all and may you always have strength through it all. Ameen

To end I wanted to share this video that has been floating around by one of my favorite mom bloggers from “Story of this life” . This video makes me tear up

This video makes me tear up every time I see it.

And as she says “The Sacrifice is great but the reward is greater” .

I pray you had a wonderful Mother’s Day yesterday and hope it’s ALWAYS as beautiful. Because hey, everyday is Mother’s Day!

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I would love to hear from you! Comment Below, what is the best & hardest thing about motherhood for you? I will pick one winner to get a special MOM mug from me 🙂


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  • Reply
    May 14, 2018 at 12:24 pm

    The best thing about motherhood is the privilege itself to be a mom! I don’t take it for granted one bit even though it can be hard and draining most days. I know this is a blessing and I am reminded of it every time I look into my daughter’s face ‘c e every time she gives me a hug or kiss, every time she sleeps in my arms, every time she learns something new that I taught her!
    There are so many couples out there who can not have babies of their own and I can’t even imagine what they are going through.
    The hardest thing about motherhood is the sacrifice. Whether physical, emotional or anywhere in between. My biggest sacrifice was staying home with my daughter and not sending her to daycare so I can ensure she is being loved, nurtured and taken care of the way she deserves. I graduated with my masters degree and gave birth shortly after so I have not been able to work with my degree yet and I would be lying if I said it doesn’t eat at me sometimes. But I know that sending my daughter to daycare at such a young age would have also made me feel guilty and like I am a bad and selfish mom. You can never win! You just have to do what you think is best for your family and trust in Allah swt that you are getting rewarded for the sacrifices you’ve made.

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    Sameera Hameed
    May 14, 2018 at 2:27 pm

    The best and hardest thing? motherhood itself! Motherhood is sooo beautiful. the bestest that has ever happened to me. i look at my 2 yr old toddler n 7 month old baby and i cant imagine the love i have for them. and would love to have more and more for as long as Allah wills. but thats the hardest thing. I’m so so tired. ao exhausted. I’ve forgotten a lot of who I am or was. my body isnt the same anymore. and I’m still in love with motherhood n my babies! I’m typing this while putting my toddler to sleep but he’s too curious to see my phone too.

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    Jamila Jones
    May 15, 2018 at 12:29 am

    I saw this poem that describes how I feel about being a mum – I struggle so deeply to understand how someone can pour their entire soul blood and energy into someone without wanting anything in return – I will have to wait till I’m a mother.

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    May 15, 2018 at 8:15 am

    This was a beautiful read! Thank you for being real and honest, I can relate to a lot of what your shared. Motherhood is the hardest role, but the most rewarding!

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    May 15, 2018 at 8:24 am

    Happy Mother’s Day to you as well. Ramadan Kareem to you and your family.

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    May 15, 2018 at 12:42 pm

    This article really resonated with me! The best thing: there’s so many, but my baby son smiling up at me, knowing I’m his world and that I can bring him comfort when he cries. It’s such a special feeling.
    The hardest: how isolating it can feel, and this fear that you aren’t doing enough..that there will always be MORE you could do for your child/ren

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      May 19, 2018 at 2:34 pm

      Oh Ayesha the isolation is real subhanAllah. May Allah make it easy for us! Ameen!

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    Natasha Duke
    May 15, 2018 at 1:05 pm

    The best part of motherhood for me is the unconditional love that my children show me. Their love is so pure mashallah. They say the sweetest words to me and even my 18 month shows me such love through his hugs. It’s amazing alhumdulillah and worth every struggle. The hardest part of motherhood for me is dealing with Mom guilt. I’m definitely my worst critic and that is something I don’t want to pass onto my children so I’m working on not feeling guilty when things don’t go as planned.

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    Nida javeed
    May 15, 2018 at 1:34 pm

    The best and the hardest thing about motherhood for me was taking care of my baby all the time and not going crazy. Motherhood is a full time job and especially in the newborn days it’s so hard not to get bogged down and feel like you are just going crazy after the baby.

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    May 15, 2018 at 11:13 pm

    Lovely! Nice to read an honest take on being a Mum! Happy mothers day to you! X

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    Zainab Dokrat
    May 17, 2018 at 5:23 am

    Aww this was such a lovely post mashallah!

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    May 17, 2018 at 12:12 pm

    Ameen. Wow, this is such a lovely post. You mothers are amazing! May Allah reward you all.

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    May 18, 2018 at 7:49 am

    Ameen! May Allah ease all your trials and bless you and all the mums who are struggling! Ramadan Kareem to you and your family!

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    Lilac Prose
    May 18, 2018 at 11:18 am

    Thank you for sharing such a lovely post!

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    May 19, 2018 at 8:25 am

    I have enjoyed reading this post.Every mother can relate .The difficult thing of mothethood is to teach ethics and good behaviours to children.

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    June 23, 2018 at 1:26 pm

    This is beautiful. Yes motherhood is hard. But yes it is also an amazing experience and a unique privilege. ❤️

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    June 26, 2018 at 6:32 pm

    Love this post, Afra. My babies are older now (we’re out of diapers and all going to be in school full time this fall), but I have so many memories from when I had three under 5. It was wonderful and exhausting all at the same time. Of course, when I look back at photos, all the emotions come flooding back. These days we’re in the messy middle of life, and I’m learning to love this stage as well. We moms are so hard on ourselves. I definitely lose my temper and don’t always “like” my kids, even though I love them to pieces. I’ve always said motherhood is the hardest and greatest job I’ll ever have. Thanks for sharing your journey! I love to connect and encourage other moms too. We need each other!

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    July 1, 2018 at 9:24 pm

    The best thing for me, is that I could conceive and birth a happy baby. Even that is a blessing in today’s time.

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